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Modern therapy treats masculinity as a pathology, not a responsibility.

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Men don’t heal by analyzing themselves. They heal by carrying weight and doing their duty.

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Therapy built on feminine energy doesn't work for men.

BREIFING

Jett here. When Matt Walsh tells men they don’t need therapy, he’s actually right, for the most part. Also, he's saying a very well-kept secret out loud, and that's why it's rattled so many people. Let’s get into it.

For most men, the problem isn’t some deeply buried emotional mystery waiting to be unlocked. It’s actually the opposite. Men fall apart when they stop doing man things like building, working, creating, and carrying responsibility. Sitting in soft, cushy, emotionally performative spaces and dissecting feelings for hours doesn’t ground men. It weakens them. That type of processing is feminine, and forcing men into that unfamiliar and totally unnatural situation doesn’t help them become better fathers, husbands, or leaders. It pulls them further away from who they are and makes them more effeminate, which ultimately serves women’s needs, not men’s.

That doesn’t mean men can never seek counsel. I get it; sometimes a guy needs to talk it out. But here's the big thing: the source matters. If a man genuinely needs guidance, it should come from an older man who understands male psychology, male pressure, and male duty. Not from an industry dominated by feminine emotional frameworks that treat masculinity as something toxic that needs to be managed, softened, or corrected. You don’t strengthen men by feminizing them. You strengthen them by reinforcing the parts of them that actually work.

That’s the line Walsh crossed. And it’s why this conversation is on fire.

This conversation kicked off when Matt Walsh came across a raw, unsettling post from a man named Justin, a new father who is spiraling over feelings about being a new dad. The Justin guy is clearly confused and anxious. This is a man trying to emotionally troubleshoot fatherhood the way modern "female" culture tells him he’s supposed to, and obviously, it's not working.

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Am I just a monster? It's been 4 years since I became a father and I'm beginning to fear for my soul. The truth is I just don't like being around kids for very long. Historically, this is not uncommon among fathers, but today it feels almost illegal. It's causing me a lot of confusion and anguish. The ideal amount of time I would like to spend playing with my kids is probably about 70-140 minutes a week—roughly ten minutes each day, maybe 2x/day, taking breaks from work. My feelings of love toward them are perfectly strong, but if I have to watch them or entertain them for more than about 10 minutes my blood starts to boil. I just want to be working, or accomplishing something. I try to be grateful, but it doesn't work. It's 9 AM this morning, Saturday, January 3. It's a sunny, warm day here in Austin, and my four-year-old son is begging me to play catch in the street. I was drinking coffee, still waking up, so I didn’t really feel like it, but at this age his desire to play is insatiable. He begged and begged, so I conceded, and with a smile. I have no problem being a kind and loving father, the problem is only that I do not enjoy it. It's not that I'm trying to maximize my personal pleasure; it just seems wrong that I experience so little delight when my dad friends all claim to experience so much. It was beautiful. We live on a picturesque, tree-lined block. I am even relatively relaxed from the holiday rest. Playing catch with your son is supposed to be an iconic, peak experience. Yet for every single minute, on the inside, I just don't want to be there. I want to be drinking my coffee in peace. Then I feel guilty and absurdly ungrateful, and ashamed, when we're done. I know that when he is a teenager, I'll long to have these days back. I have all of this perspective rationally, and I've been very patient and steadfast trying to digest it, but nothing fixes me emotionally. Am I a terrible person? Or is my feeling within a certain range of historically normal and it's modern parenting norms that are off? Whether it's my fault or not, I don't even care, I just want to figure this out. Something is wrong and I no longer have the excuse of being new to this.

Am I just a monster? It's been 4 years since I became a father and I'm beginning to fear for my soul. The truth is I just don't like being around kids for very long. Historically, this is not uncommon among fathers, but today it feels almost illegal. It's causing me a lot of…

— Justin Murphy (@jmrphy) January 3, 2026

Walsh didn’t respond with well-scripted buzzwords and validation hooey. He did the one thing modern therapy culture refuses to do. He asked the man to stop obsessing over his feelings, stop broadcasting his personal life online, and start carrying the weight of his role without turning it into a public spectacle. And when Matt did that, he touched the third rail. Not just about fatherhood, but about therapy, and whether men are actually helped by a system that treats manhood like something that has to be talked through and fixed instead of understood and respected.

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There are two solutions to your problem. First, stop obsessing over how you feel. Spend time with your kids. Stop analyzing how you feel about spending time with them. Second, most importantly, stop revealing your deeply personal anxieties on the internet. Don't reveal them to anyone, actually. Carry them quietly, like a man, and do your duty. The good news is that if you get your head out of your ass and forget about your feelings, you'll also feel better. But that's a downstream benefit. It happens when you stop trying to make it happen.

There are two solutions to your problem. First, stop obsessing over how you feel. Spend time with your kids. Stop analyzing how you feel about spending time with them. Second, most importantly, stop revealing your deeply personal anxieties on the internet. Don't reveal them to… https://t.co/O1eX7EeyDW

— Matt Walsh (@MattWalshBlog) January 4, 2026

As you can imagine, the female pushback came fast. A follower jumped in to insist that some men absolutely need therapy. Matt Walsh didn’t soften his stance. He doubled down and drew the line even clearer. Therapy culture works for women because women are wired to process through emotion and conversation. Men aren’t. Forcing men into female spaces built around emotion and exploration doesn’t do them a bit of good. On the contrary, it confuses them.

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As a general rule, grown men should not go to therapy. Most therapists are liberal women who couldn’t possibly have any useful advice to give them. Most people who go to therapy are also women. That’s because sitting around and talking about your feelings is inherently feminine. Men don’t solve their problems that way.

As a general rule, grown men should not go to therapy. Most therapists are liberal women who couldn’t possibly have any useful advice to give them. Most people who go to therapy are also women. That’s because sitting around and talking about your feelings is inherently feminine.… https://t.co/UXEqfYqxYY

— Matt Walsh (@MattWalshBlog) January 5, 2026

Walsh followed up by tightening his argument and adding context. He made it clear that he doesn’t see modern therapy as the answer for men, but he does recognize that some men may need to "talk it out" sometimes. If that happens, his line is firm. Avoid female therapists at all costs. Seek out an older man who understands male psychology, male pressure, and male responsibility. Not some effeminate fop steeped in the language of emotional indulgence or trained to soften and reframe masculinity on behalf of an industry built for women. The issue isn’t talking. It’s who you’re talking to.

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As I’ve said before, therapy could only be even potentially useful for a man if the therapist is a man older than him. But there are almost no straight male therapists over the age of 50 in the industry. It’s all women in their 30s and 40s with degrees in social work and dysfunctional personal lives. A grown man would be better off seeking life advice from any random dude at the hardware store.

DEBRIEFING

What this exchange exposed is something most people fully "get" but are trained to ignore. Therapy is a female space. It’s built around emotional processing, verbal unpacking, and validation. That works for women because women are wired for it. Men aren’t. Treating those differences like they don't exist throws everything off balance. It creates confusion.

Men don’t belong in female spaces any more than women belong in male ones. When men are pushed to process life the way women do, they don’t become healthier or more self-aware. They become disconnected from the natural traits that ground them, stabilize them, and make them effective men. That mismatch explains why so many men feel worse after doing exactly what they were told would help.

If a man truly needs to talk something through, the answer isn’t surrendering to some bizarre feminized system. The answer is other men. Older men. Men who understand pressure, restraint, responsibility, and the male psyche without trying to reprogram it. Honor the differences instead of flattening them.

NOW YOU KNOW

Strength doesn’t come from being reshaped. It comes from being understood.