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The nuclear family was dismantled in the name of liberation. 

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When marriage declines, structure is reassembled through contracts.

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Platonic co-parenting exists because something stable collapsed.

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We called the traditional family outdated. Now we are reconstructing it in fragments.

BRIEFING

Sloane here. When stability disappears, something experimental usually takes its place, and we’re told that change is "progress." That's hooey, because most modern solutions aren't born from a place of strength. They come from traditions we break down. Let’s dive in.

Over the past several decades, marriage and birth rates have plummeted, and two-parent households have shrunk to one. Fathers are gone, which is causing mass instability for children.

Instead of restoring what we know worked and was lost, we decide to redesign the entire thing and make a total mess of it in the process. Enter platonic co-parenting. This is the latest example of reinventing a wheel that doesn't work. What is this new strangeness? Well, it's a doozy. Platonic co-parenting is when strangers connect through online apps and create formal agreements to raise a child without marriage or romantic commitment. This nonsense is marketed as intentional and pragmatic and as a streamlined solution for adults who want children without the traditional family structure.

Nothing like bringing kids into the world via some Silicon Valley app, right?

What’s really stunning is that this has been going on for years, and we’re still debating whether it’s a good idea.

Spoiler alert: it’s not.

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But let's look at what's really happening beyond the "millennial marketing." What once made marriage magical and beautiful is now some clinical negotiated process between two total strangers. Cooperation, permanence, and shared responsibility are formalized, not naturalized. The traditional model that has worked for eons is now labeled outdated. But the real kicker is that "traditions'" core functions keep resurfacing in all this new "progress." Why? Well, because one thing never changes... children need stability and adults who care.

And the thing is, if the nuclear family were truly unnecessary and outdated, there would be nothing to recreate. Yet what we see is the same basic framework being rebuilt, only this time it’s stripped of romance, faith, and tradition and replaced with strangers, contracts, and apps. The rise of this bizarre co-parenting arrangement doesn’t represent some profound liberation from this outdated structure. It represents the reconstruction of the same structure in a cold, heartless, terrible way.

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Well, you could swipe endlessly on Hinge or Tinder until your ovaries shrivel up — or you could just cut to the chase by taking the romance out of the equation.

Instead of letting one major life decision hinge on another, a growing number of baby-feverish singles are embracing platonic coparenting: when two or more people decide to have a child together (whether that involves adoption, natural or self-insemination, or surrogacy, etc.), minus the romance.

And let's not even get started on the legal implications of platonic co-parenting arrangements. When two total strangers decide to raise a child together, contracts must clearly define custody, financial responsibility, inheritance rights, and decision-making. This isn’t some deep philosophical debate. This is lawyers figuring out how to keep everything from blowing up later.

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Even prior to the pandemic, there had been an increase in co-parenting or ‘parenting partnerships’ as an option for family building – often for singles (including, for example, heterosexual friends or individuals having matched through co-parenting websites) or same-sex couples (for example, a same-sex male and same-sex female couple) having decided that they do not wish to have a child in a traditional ‘family’ model.

In response to these new parenting opportunities, there has been a rise in co-parenting websites intended to match potential co-parents who wish to have a child together, live separately but play an equal and active role in a child’s upbringing.

DEBRIEFING

Tradition, love, and compatibility aren't created through contracts, custody terms, and legal safeguards. That stuff is grounded in faith and shared commitment. You can't find that on an app.

Furthermore, if the nuclear family were truly outdated, no one would be working this hard to recreate it with the same basic building blocks twisted into God-knows-what. Yet the same structure keeps resurfacing, only this time without the spiritual and moral foundation that once anchored it.

When you remove God from the center, you're left trying to engineer stability through goofy apps.

NOW YOU KNOW

This is a risky foundation on which to build a child’s life.